To start off, lets agree that no one ever starts a relationship with a Break Up on the Horizon. New love is strong and works wonders to smooth over possible sharp edges.
But new love turns to complacent love as the novelty dies down and sometimes you get pretty far into a relationship before things begin to break down. Immediately after a break up the instinct is to begin dissecting every tiny interaction and analyzing who was in the right and who was in the wrong.
I’m not going to tell you not to do that; but I will say that letting go of previous interactions can be a helpful way to move past the pain of a break up.
However you choose to deal with the personal pain of a break up, always work to remember your ex fondly. You were with that person for a reason, there was some magic in your relationship at some point, and you don’t need to burn bridges just to achieve emotional freedom.
This is a tricky thing to accomplish however, too much nostalgia means that you will keep clinging to memories rather than moving forward to new opportunities.
So remember fondly but with finality.
There is a reason you broke up, it doesn’t need to be a blame game, but rather a mature realization that while you once made each other happy, you don’t make each other happy anymore.
Set boundaries with your communication, lower your expectations of reciprocation, get rid of objects or clothing that makes you feel sad, and push forward to a brighter future.
Trust me in this, if Cali Nomads can survive a break up and still be friends, I fully believe that you can as well. We wish everyone the best in life, love, and the pursuit of happiness. That is the core tenet of being a California Nomad.
Onward to brighter and better days, one day at a time.
Love E & H